Death Doula
An advocate for the dying
On the Search of the Good Death
On the Stunveldti culture, death is taken with reverence and kindness, but with a lot more openness than in the rest of the archipelago, being considered a passageway into eternity, which one has to aim to help their loved ones go through in peace and good company.
It is a deep cultural belief in their nation that all kinds of love, be it fraternal, romantic, platonic, or otherwise carry with them the responsibility of helping the loved one achieve a Good Death: One filled with love, with cheerfulness and relaxation, without worries or regrets.
A death doula will help the dying person sort their pending affairs, ease their anxieties and worries, and prepare their deathbed. Once their client is ready for dying, the death doula will gather the person's loved ones and comfort their client, making sure they are surrounded by pleasant things and sensations and helping their body be free of aches and tensions.
The Opening of Stunveldt's culture
Death Doulas during The High Rust
The rich and powerful, those that were more used and more able to hide death from the eyes of the public, became riddled with friends and family covered in the scaly orange patches that announced their end and more often than not, found themselves in said situation.
Up to that point, some people have had sparsely started working as death doulas in the island of Ruh, but other cultures continued to see it as morbid and strange.
However, soon enough the desperation and hopelessness became stronger than the need to save face, and people started turning to any small hope of making imminent deaths easier on both the family and the sick ones.
They have to specialize in advocating for their client, being their allies and concentrating their efforts on the dying person's wishes and needs, while keeping the family and friends in line. With the passing of the few years after the Rust, people on most of the islands went back to treating death with the same veil of taboo as before, though some sparks of openness and desire to turn death into a more positive experience remained in some places...
Controversy
Besides the cultural aversion to openly talking about death, some folk had actual issues with the idea of death doulas' profession becoming popular and expanding through the islands.On one side, several people expressed preoccupation that Death Doulas will push away the death-related traditions from the other islands in order to introduce Stunveldti concepts.
On the other side, some people are worried that welcoming death, talking about it like it's no big deal or involving the dying person on their own death's preparation is morbid, and would make society find dying for unworthy causes (especially those where the powerful decide that people are an expendable resource) less outrageous.
Some are wary about the use of these doulas being promoted by the Thaurian monarchy, as they think that there may be a hidden agenda, probably related to the previous point. Last, but not least, some families are not happy with having a third party openly acting only on the best interest of the dying person, as that often prevents them from having their way on things.
Do you want to know more about real-life death doulas? Check this beautiful video by the amazing Ask a Mortician and Going with Grace.
What a wholesome profession! I can see how others might regard it differently if they knew little about what they do (or if their existing culture was too deeply ingrained in their beliefs surrounding death).
Thank youuu <3 I think this profession is as respectable and valuable as it gets, and it is a blessing that they actually exist. I hope they become more well known around the world, and I hope my article make some more people learn about them <3