The Tembolo

A temp wedding or handfasting that marries a couple but does not soul bind them as in the Tembela. This marriage may last from as little as a few weeks to years depending on the tribe, cultures and those involved.
In contrast to the Tembela, the Tembolo is a temporary marriage or betrothal, a pragmatic arrangement often used to strengthen alliances or ensure compatibility before a permanent union.
Ceremony Details:
Purpose: To allow couples to explore their compatibility. To form strategic alliances between families, clans, or kingdoms. To take on multiple partners
Agreement Terms: Duration ranges from one year to several years, agreed upon by both parties. Clearly defined terms and conditions, including roles, responsibilities, and the option for renewal or dissolution.
Ritual Location: Typically held in more modest settings like family homes, smaller temples, or community halls. Decorated with symbols of unity and provisional commitment.
Ceremony Stages: Heart Invocation: The Okanira, a respected figure overseeing the Tembolo, invokes blessings upon the couple’s hearts, fostering understanding and affection.
Binding of Hearts: A cord or bracelet is tied around the couple’s wrists, symbolizing their provisional bond. Pledges of Understanding: The couple exchanges pledges, focusing on mutual respect, support, and growth.
Heart Bonding: The Okanira performs a ritual to link the couple’s heartstrings, creating an emotional and empathetic connection that aids in their time together.
Feast of Hope: The ceremony ends with a communal meal, where attendees offer blessings and advice to the couple.